The Complete Man is happy at work, in the home, and within his relationships. If you don’t succeed in all three of these areas, you’ll never be fully happy and fulfilled. And by the way, that also means never unlocking your full business potential.
We call this being an Incomplete Man. And If you can relate, don’t worry. I’m here for you and understand why you’re incomplete. You see, for generations, men have been told that wealth is the key to personal success. Businessmen have worked and worked and worked towards the reward of financial stability. Being able to provide for a family, for the little ones, and maybe even for parents — all of it has been seen as the ultimate goal and the key to having a successful, happy, and fulfilling life.
However, money can’t buy happiness because becoming The Complete Man who experiences Complete Victory isn’t for sale. So here’s what you need to know.
Incomplete Men Can’t Do It All
Some men have their cake and eat it, but many can’t. That’s because this is a paradigm that is simply incompatible with the way many people live their lives. The chase for money and status and physical things come at a personal cost as relationships lie uncared for, which means they drift and become stale.
After a while, you may feel empty inside, or that all the things that previously meant something and drove ambition (business goals, wealth goals) don’t mean as much anymore. That’s a tough realization to take. That’s the gut punch, and that will hurt. But when you’re in this pit of self-realization, you have to know that there’s a way out.
Your mindset needs to be changed, it needs to be shifted, and once it is, the path to becoming The Complete Man will become clear. You can do this by freeing your mind and embracing a new way of thinking, and in doing so, become complete. Shift your mind from focusing on achievements to experiences; these are the chains you need to break.
The Incomplete Man knows how to succeed in business, but they don’t know how to be happy. This has to come from within. There has to be a change in mentality from an external outlook to an internal one, which isn’t easy. But luckily, it’s not too late to change things around – and here are the steps you need to take to address things to achieve The Complete Victory.
Step 1: Connect With Your Inner Child
Remember when you were a curious young boy? What types of things did you aspire to do, what made you curious, what got you ticking, and why have you lost sight of them? Don’t just remember. Write this down and explore these questions.
Because Incomplete Men have lost sight of what made life good, back when life wasn’t just a constant chase for money and business success. As a result, they become trapped by the trappings instead of living the life of their dream. The dreams that bring and support the drive to make money and power and focus to pursue happiness and fulfillment.
Step 2: Stop & Smell The Roses
Take pleasure at the simple things. Take some time to stop and smell the roses, take in all those little sensations and experiences in life. It might sound like a cliche, and it is, but that’s because cliche’s come embedded with a grain of truth and nothing is truer than this.
So Focus on EXPERIENCE, not Achievement. Because it’s far too easy to become desensitized to the things that made us curious. And over time this impacts our ability to take joy from simple things. For many men, this defaults to becoming obsessively focused on wealth and business success at the cost of everything else.
So I challenge you to broaden out that tunnel vision. Take the time to “experience” joy and be happy about more than money. Find the extrinsic value in life. Focus more on experience rather than just goals. Take the time to appreciate how you interact with your kids and spouse when doing something simple, like eating a nice meal. If you can do this, you will see the difference.
Step 3: Find Extrinsic Pleasure and Fulfilment
When you follow steps like the three we’ve referenced here, the results will be clear: you will become more content with life and with your role within it. You’ll have more pleasure and more fulfillment.
But that doesn’t mean it’s going to be easy to find external worth and happiness. Whether you are young or old, this process will require some soul searching. You will have to dig deep within yourself to find purpose in things other than wealth or financial success.
Accessing that inner child and unlocking those basic childhood thoughts are a good place to start. It should allow you to become energized by things other than what’s been driving you down this path of relentless, joyless, wealth accumulation.
It’s not an easy process. You’re being asked to go from incomplete to complete in a way that encourages and demands men to break free from the previous mindset that was holding them back. It’s a brave, difficult move, but it’s also completely necessary.
How To Become The Complete Man
Remember, to unlock your full potential and succeed in all areas of your life, you need to feel complete. You can’t attain that with wealth and business success alone; you also need to be happy within your own skin and have successful relationships with your partner and the people in your life.
Shifting the paradigm to become content internally and externally is key to reaching your potential as a Complete Man. In my new book, The Complete Man, I go through all the steps required to live your best life in the office and at home.
Make sure you get the book here because the world needs more Complete Men to rise to their highest potential as spouses, fathers, businessmen, and leaders.